It Gets Better

“It” might not get better. But you? You can get better.

Plot Twist

I know a lot of you have gone through horrific trauma, and I want you to know God has something beautiful picked out for you: a unique path of healing. He loves you and healing is a part of His love for you. Don’t believe for one second that you will always be broken. You are not defective. You are not flawed. You are not defeated. God will win this battle for you.

When It Hurts Like a Mother

The roots of divorce spread far and wide. A broken home is part of the collateral damage, and children are left with a deficit. Here are some practices to hold on to when hurt turns to lies.

Why I Stayed Single

I didn’t date for 4 years. This wasn't a calculated choice, either. I WANTED to date. I just didn't want to date out of boredom or desperation.The Bible doesn't have much to say about dating because it didn't exist in that culture or era! However, the Bible DOES have lots to say about the kind of people we should team up with in life. So if dating is pointing us toward finding a mate, then I want to pursue a godly relationship from the start.

Look Up

Have you ever started out running one errand, but found yourself running an errand for someone else instead? Let me tell you — God is one smooth dude. I thought I was running to town for eye liner and dog food. However, both stores on my list were closed. So I ran to Target.

I walked into the makeup section to search for my brand, but my focus was immediately shifted to Paul. Paul was the older gentleman who was timidly walking the aisles of the beauty section. He looked lost. I watched from a distance as he looked carefully at the products and then referred back to his phone.

All of a sudden I heard words exiting my mouth, "Do you need help finding something?"

Robbed Blind - Part Two

Maybe the enemy has robbed you blind. Well, my friend, get ready because God gives sight to the blind. He will bring clarity and brilliance where things were once foggy and dim. He will open your eyes to the dreams He’s planted in your soul. And when your eyes adjust to the light you’ll see — you’ll see a life you love and I have a feeling it’ll be richer than before.

Robbed Blind - Part One

“God… I feel robbed. I know You aren’t the one who took that life from me. But I miss it. I miss the comforts of a big house. I miss my friends and the sense of community we shared. I miss the time I got to spend with my kids. I know You’re the one holding things together for me — but I feel robbed. It’s not just about the things that were taken from me. It’s a life I loved and now it’s gone.”

Hundreds of Miles Apart

“Last year things suddenly changed. Choices were made. Choices that hurt. Choices that left us hundreds of miles apart. Choices that felt very similar to the pain of my own divorce.”

My Approach to 40

It’s my birth month and it may have started a tad rough. I kind of felt like I was getting shoved out of my 30s — like an unwanted guest who had stayed too long. I hate to admit it, but somewhere along the way I bought into the lie that if I wasn’t married by 40 then it would be exponentially harder to find a mate. I was feeling like my value as a person was depreciating simply because I’m approaching 40 and I’m not married yet. Who decided being single in your 40s is the absolute most pathetic thing ever? I didn’t realize it, but I bought into this stigma, too! But not anymore.

Believing in Love

The impossible desire of my heart is to find love again. It's ok to feel like it's impossible. That's how I'll know it’s the Lord when it does happen. It seems bigger than I can fathom and I wouldn't want it any other way.

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